As the teachers have been readying their classrooms for the new "school" year, they have been posting pictures of all the little angels in the hallways and in the classroom. Little baby faces are surrounded by flower petals, farm animals have our cute little babies superimposed on their faces, and babies are smiling from every bulletin board. "Well, isn't that cute!" I exclaimed to myself when I noticed the new decorations. I immediately searched for Jr.'s face on a lion or a dandelion. Here is the picture I found (minus the daisy around his face).
I got home and calmed my nerves with baby hugs and kisses. The next day, the picture incident was long forgotten (ok, maybe not long forgotten, I had already ordered several prints of more flattering pictures to bring next week.). But, when I picked him up that evening, I found two incident reports in his cubby. Apparently, Jr. had been bitten by a classmate twice on his back. Well, that's fine. I understand children that age sometimes bite due to frustration with communication. It wasn't until bath time,when I discovered this mark, that I almost lost my mommy-mind:
"Well, I didn't think much of it, but then I saw the BITE MARKS on his back last night." I retorted.
"Oh, didn't you see the incident report?" teacher asked me with a patronizing tone.
I think I may have rolled my eyes. Of course I saw the report. And, now I'm asking about it. What the heck happened to my baby!!!
As I stumbled over my words and my frustration, the director must have sensed my motherly anxiety. She assured me that Jr. had not acted provokingly, but that another child has taken to biting and even bit her son (who is in Jr.'s class as well). Apparently, they are on top of this little issue. I felt a bit better. But not a lot. And hubby is pretty outraged. I remind myself there is good reason for the policy to not disclose the name of the child and that this type of behavior is pretty typical of the age. I'm trying to not be a belligerent, difficult parent. But, this is unacceptable!! And, which of those little brats is responsible? I'm guessing this one:
Everything I know as a professional tells me this is normal par-for-the-course and that I must be calm. Babies who can't talk, bite. Babies don't mean harm to their friends when they bite. It isn't a personal assault against Jr. It's a phase. Calm. Peace. Pray.
But, really, this is unacceptable! That yuck-face picture is now the furthest thing from my mind.