I've decided I need to stop quietly taking offense and sulking away with hidden hurt feelings. Instead, I am going to say something witty and informative, that might make a person think twice before they make "your belly's so big" comments to other poor pregnant momsies. I know I have to be careful with this new strategy, as my pregnancy hormones can easily make my words a little more biting then I intend. I don't want to seem bitter or emotional. I just want to light-heartedly help people think of more positive comments to say to pregnant women.
So, yesterday, I started implementing my new response to negative belly comments. My first opportunity came when a teacher looked at my belly, dropped her jaw to the floor, and said, "Wow!" Her otherwise speechlessness could easily have been translated as "Your belly is humongous." So, I practiced my new reaction. I gave a little chuckle, said, "Now, you know you aren't supposed to say that to a pregnant lady!" and sandwiched it with another light-hearted chuckle. The teacher responded just as she should have. "Oh, I meant, Wow! You look beautiful!" "Ah, thank you!," I chuckle chuckled. That worked out nicely.
I tried it again later in the day. When I picked Jr. up from daycare, his teacher met me with a very similar response as the teacher from earlier in the day. "Wow! Your belly!" Jaw dropped and eyes bulged. I gave my new response, chuckle chuckle, "Now, you know you aren't supposed to say that to a pregnant lady!" chuckle chuckle. Her response was a little different. She stammered and back-tracked. "Well, I didn't see your belly at first . . . and then I looked up . . . and there it was . . and . . ." That response will also work for me. Though a little defensive, she at least seemed to get that she should have responded a little differently.
I will continue on my one-woman quest to encourage people to think of more positive responses to growing bellies! A pregnant belly is a sign of such a beautiful and amazing miracle! Please join me by spreading positive words to pregnant women you know. Speak positive words to pregnant women and when you see or hear someone rudely guffawing at a pregnant belly, counteract their negative response with some beautiful encouraging words.
"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." 1 Thessalonians 5:11