|A rare photo of my 29 week pregnant belly.|
A growing baby belly attracts a lot of attention. Much of it, during this second pregnancy of mine, is unwanted. When I hear, "Dr. Momsie!" in the hall of one of my schools, I brace myself. Mostly because I really never know how someone is going to respond. I get some very lovely and supportive comments, but I also receive some really rude and unthoughtful responses too. I can't resist sharing a few examples I'll start with the supportive make-my-day type of comments. Please repeat these unsparingly to the pregnant people you know.
- "You carry a baby so well, you just really take to pregnancy."
- "You look beautiful!" (said by a complete stranger in the bathroom).
- "You are so tiny, all belly. You will have that baby and have no weight left to lose!" (From their lips to God's ears!)
- "You just have a little ball in front. How cute."
- "You haven't gained much weight in your face like some pregnant women." (Even though you can obviously see in the picture above that my cheeks are quite chipmunky).
- "You are glowing."
- "You look much smaller then with your last baby." (Completely untrue, but I love to hear it).
- "Ah, she's having a baby!" (Said with smiles by children in the hall).
Unfortunately, more often then not, this is what I hear instead . . .
- "You're not due until July? I just don't think you'll make it!" (I hear this at least once a day. Does anyone really think this is a kind thing to say?)
- "Oh my! Are you sure it isn't twins?" (Quite possibly the most annoying, but very common, comment).
- "Ewww, she's pregnant!" (said with judgmental and glaring stares by students in the hall.)
- "You look good . . . in the face." (Teacher says as she stares at my belly. Really?)
- "Wow, you're really much larger with this baby, huh?"
- "How much does she weigh? She's going to be a big baby!" (Ok, do people really think I know how much the baby weighs, as if I can place her on a scale?"
- "What's wrong with your belly? It's all lopsided!" (Yes, she likes to roll up into a ball on one side. Thanks for letting me know how freakish that looks).
- "You're really poking out!"
- "You sure are growing!" (Duh.)
- "Wide load!" (Jokingly said by the husband. Totally not funny.)
- "You're much bigger than I was at that stage."
Say something kind to a pregnant woman today. Even if she looks like a hot mess, she may need to hear a little lie. If nothing else, try "You look amazing!"